Guy, the grill is higher than normal, but it's actually a pretty nice height. I'm a short fella, and I can look down in it no problem. I use a clay pizza stone to diffuse the heat, so it's hot at the edges and even in the middle, which is a great improvement over my old propane BBQ. That was always burning hot in the middle and cold at the edges. This thing cooks great! Last night my neighbor came over with his nephew and we cooked pork chops, chicken, and some grilled veggies. It really is a huge improvement over any BBQ I've ever owned. Maybe if I could afford one of those $1000 stainless behemoths I'd feel differently, but this thing beats the pants off of my hand me down gas cheapies, and is way faster and easier than charcoal. Seems to cook and flavor about the same as charcoal.
The bench is kind of a physics trick. It's technically what's called a "bell" in masonry stoves. Firstly, there is no smoke, because the rocket burns the wood completely, so just hot gas is all we are dealing with. So, the inlet to the bench is higher than the exhaust flue's inlet. What that means is that the hot gas fills the bench until it has gotten down to the level of the exhaust. Picture a room with the wood stove running and not much air moving. The ceiling is hot, and the floor is cold. Pump enough hot air in, and eventually the heat starts to fill up the room from the top down. That's how the bench works, and it ensures even heating all throughout the bench, right to the ends. It's really neat, and has some great applications for homes. Like a suspended wood floor, where you can't put that much mass. One of these has a lot less mass, and more radiant surface area. Anyway, maybe that helps you understand it.